WaWie Feature: Nyeng + Tin DIY prenup

Congratulations! Your boyfriend proposed to you and now you are planning to tie down the knot in the next couple of months or so. As you go through the nitty gritty details of wedding planning, you might have contemplated on whether or not you are going to have an engagement photo shoot or what is commonly known as Prenup Photo Shoot. With all the planning and wedding expenses you are torn between having a prenup shoot or not.

CamZar Photography | www.camzarphoto.com

CamZar Photography | www.camzarphoto.com

Tin Castro, now Manalo and Nyeng her husband had their do-it-yourself or DIY creative prenup shoot, YES! You read it right, DIY! Weddings at Work (WaW) and Pinterest has been a great help in making their DIY engagement shot possible. “Search ka lang ng “engagement shoot” madami ng lilitaw”, Tin wrote. She took inspiration from real life pre nup shoots and choose an executable theme. According to her, it is important to know your capabilities and ensure that whatever peg or style you will be choosing as your theme can be pulled off easily. “I took time looking for a balloon supplier kung saan ba pinaka mura, anong game plan sa pag pump, ano pandidikit sa balloons, ano mga kailangan dalhin, anong back up in case hindi maging successful ang execution”. To cut down on cost, Tin had decided against getting a stylist. She spent a lot of time conceptualizing and picturing the end result in her mind.

CamZar Photography | www.camzarphoto.com

CamZar Photography | www.camzarphoto.com

On the day of their engagement shoot, she had help from her friends to set everything up. They styled the venue the night before the shoot, they pumped each and every balloon then suspended them from the ceiling just as how she plans it to look. They worked on the space for almost 2 hours.

CamZar Photography | www.camzarphoto.com

CamZar Photography | www.camzarphoto.com

Tin and Nyeng got the expertise of Camille from CamZar Photography to do their prenup and wedding photo coverage. The group was one of their WaW find, they have read reviews of the team from the group and decided to hire them to cover their first of many milestones as husband and wife. It was a risk they took as they were not able to meet Camille or anybody from CamZar Photography in person prior to booking. How Camille’s team delivered through the photo shoot did not disappoint, the couple felt comfortable working them. “What really amazed me (from the team) was the different angles they were able to capture (us) sa napaka liit na “studio” namin! We were shooting (t)here for almost an hour dahil andami nilang ideas”, Tin mussed.

Indeed their DIY pre nup shoot was a success! Their photographer was able to capture the couple in a beautiful light moment. Their photos exclude simplicity and a fresh classic vibe. A do-it-yourself pre nup is possible, all you need is an inspiration, determination and a good team to back you up.

What do you think of Tin & Nyeng’s DIY engagement shoot? Let us know by commenting down below.

by Eunice Quiambao Baguio

Photos by CamZar Photography
HMUA by Joseph Madrid
Location at Astoria Ortigas

 

WaW Before I Do: Know REAL LOVE

I officiated a wedding last week and one of the things that I did so that each wedding would be more special, memorable and not become a routine is that I ask each couple during the pre-marital meetings to give me a Bible verse from where I would be basing my sermon from. Anywhere in the Bible and it doesn’t have to be related to marriage. So this couple chose the love verse which is found in 1 Cor 13:4-7 and it goes like this:

“Love is patient, love is kind, love is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked; does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.”

A beautiful verse indeed fitting for marriage, except that Paul was actually telling this to the Corinthians, not to teach them about married life, but his point was anything done without love counts to nothing and is meaningless. Even good deeds such as giving money to the poor or helping someone, if you don’t do it out of love, might as well not do it. However, since this was the verse that the couples chose, I gave them a chance to take it back which they refused. So I continued….

In this verse, Paul explains what love is because he knew that in the future, people will use the word “LOVE” without any idea what it means. They will think they do, but later on when realities of life sinks in, they will realize love isn’t there anymore. Why? Because it was their own definition of love and not the real meaning of love. So Paul explains what love should be… So what did he say love should be? The following are just examples and not exhaustive, there are other forms of test to see whether your love needs this characteristic.

  1. Patient. – How long are you willing to wait for your wife who is dressing up? Or probably your husband who is playing a video game and you’re already late for your appointment?
  2. Kind and is not Rude – How do you speak to one another when you are disappointed? Or when your spouse has mistakenly wronged you and you are hurt.
  3. Is not provoked and does not take into account wrong suffered – Are you willing not to bring up any past hurt and only discuss current ones? How many times are you willing to forgive your spouse until you say “you’ll never change!”
  4. Does not rejoice in unrighteousness but rejoices in the truth – Even when everyone around you says otherwise. Are you willing never to tolerate ungodliness in your family? To be an example yourself to your spouse and future children? This includes refusing to do business that gets into gray areas or bribery or watching movies via downloads. What’s wrong with downloads? Ask the producers….
  5. Bears all things – What’s the worst thing your spouse can do?
  6. Believes all things, hopes all things and endures all things – Are you truly willing to say that I am marrying this person because I know that whatever comes our way I am willing to stick it out? He or she is God’s best and no one else…

When you’re in the romantic stage still high strung with the bite of the love bug, it’s so easy to say yes you can do all these things, but when you’re already in the middle of trials you realize it’s not as easy as you thought. Truth is, marriage is not easy. It is not as fun as you thought… Many people overlook the flaws of their partner during their dating stage thinking these can be cured by marriage. Wrong! Marriage actually makes things worse! Familiarity often leads to under estimation of value. Why? Because now you see each other every day and you’re quite sure that tomorrow when you wake up your spouse will just be beside you. That goes on until one day, he or she is gone and you realize that you should’ve loved more.

So what’s the solution? Know what real love is… and you can only do so by going to not only the maker, but who love is. No wonder St. John said in one of his letters to the church:

1 John 4:8 “Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.”

In layman’s terms this is what it means: You can invent your own standard and definition of love, but that’s not real love. If you don’t know God, it will be hard to comprehend what love is. Cause it’s like Kobe beef, I can explain to you how it tastes, maybe even give it some rating and this might give you some sort of idea what I’m talking about but until you get to taste it you won’t know how good it is. Love is like that… until you get to try it firsthand from God, then you only have a slight idea on what it is. God didn’t just tell us what it is, He showed it! Love is putting a higher value on someone over yourself. He sent his Son to die for us!

There is a saying – you can’t give what you don’t have. Try and experience grace from God and you’ll be in a better position to give grace to your spouse. Receive the love of God and you’ll not only know the love mentioned in 1 Cor 13 but you’ll be able to give it out.

 

Read more of John and Monique Ong’s WaW Before I Do articles at weddingsatwork.com/category/waw-before-i-do/.

 

About John & Monique Ong:

John is a pastor at Revelation City Church, Scuba Diving instructor and owns Imagine Nation photo + Video. He is a graduate of business management at DLSU and took up Masteral in Marketing in the same school and is currently in the Pastoral counseling course at Asian Theological Seminary. Monique is a creative wife / help mate to John, a wedding hosts and heads Post Ad ventures (an Events Management company), a youth pastor in Revelation and writes in their blog called “an ounce of faith”. She took Tourism in UP Diliman

 

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WaW Wedding Tip Sheet: Having an Outdoor Ceremony?

It’s summer! Beach time! It’s also a great season to have outdoor ceremonies.

So here are some tips you can check out if you’re raring to have that outdoor ceremony you’ve been thinking of for so long.

    1. Remember that our summers are scorching hot. So avoid choosing to start the ceremony at 3PM. Invitation time should be at 3:30PM so that by the time you’re about to march at 4PM, it would be possible for people to sit down already on the seats and they can actually march without getting skin cancer. By the time you end, i.e. your recessional around 5:30PM, you will have enough time for pictorials as a couple.
    2. It’s a kind gesture to have cold water bottles waiting for guests upon arrival at the ceremony area. You can add foldable fans as well or cardboard fans with your ceremony programme.
    3. If you want to have an early ceremony, i.e. a 2:30PM invitation time, but you’d rather not have a tent or if you’re not sure if the heat will be bearable by the time you want to march, you can give umbrellas as giveaways. They will double up as protection from the sun.
    4. Have lots of cold drinks available at the cocktail area after the ceremony. You can even have ice cream or canapés that have cold toppings so that the guests will feel refreshed while eating them.
    5. If you can help it, avoid having both the ceremony and reception outdoors. That way, guests have a chance to cool down also. Since the reception is longer, I would suggest having it indoors, especially because insects tend to come out at night and if it’s summer, the weather won’t be comfortable even if the sun has set already. It will still be warm — difficult for guests wearing formal clothes.
    6. Your invitation should clearly state the venue and have an illustration of suggested clothes and footwear that would be comfortable for the garden or beach ceremony you wish to have. You’d rather not have godmothers showing up wearing stilettos or super beaded dresses that would make them feel even more warm than it already is.
    7. Your attires as bride, groom, and entourage should match the weather of the day. It’s going to be warm so light and airy clothes are best. Avoid heavy and dark fabrics that will make you sweat all throughout.
    8. Have lots of industrial type coolers so that you can still feel comfortable while having the ceremony/reception outdoors. Four units, i.e. one for each corner, will not suffice.
    9. Visit the venue a year before your big day and a few days before your big day so you are sure your area for ceremony would be the most comfortable area for the guests. I know venues like The Mango Farm give specific areas depending on the month you’re getting married but if yours is a venue that just gives you the freedom to choose without giving advice, then you should visit and really check which area has morning sun so that your afternoon event will not be too affected by the sun’s direct rays.
    10. Avoid confetti blasts during the recessional. You don’t want to affect the grass or the sand with your confetti. Petals are biodegradable so they are fine for your petal shower after the ceremony and group pictorials. You can also use ribbon wands or bubble guns so you don’t end up causing the sand to look dirty after your recessional.
    11. Mention your outdoor ceremony to your florist so he or she can choose flowers that can withstand the heat of the sun.
    12. Do not forget to book a sound system supplier for your outdoor ceremony. Some take for granted that the sound system can just transfer from the ceremony to the reception area and vice versa. Lots of wires to deal with, so they can’t just transfer. You need a group for your ceremony and another one for your reception. Give your musicians’ needs to the sound system provider so that your musicians can be properly heard during the ceremony.

Aside from all the physical preparations, one must also prepare for the actual ceremony. Have the pastor’s programme printed for your coordinators and musicians so they can follow and anticipate what will happen next. Example: while pastor is giving his pieces of advice, the coordinators can already prepare the ring bearer because he will be called to bring the rings next according to the programme given by the pastor. Remember that pastors have the freedom to create their own ceremony programmes so this copy is so important for coordinators and musicians to be prepared for what will happen next. As a couple, you should also prepare for your personal vows and honouring of parents segment. That way, you won’t ramble and end up merely crying and crying there in front. You owe it to God and to these special people to prepare for the moments when you’d have control of the microphone.

 

Read more of Darlene Tan-Salazar’s WaW Wedding Tip Sheet articles at weddingsatwork.com/category/waw-wedding-tip-sheet/.

Photo Credits: John Kenneth Alejo and Wynndee Penolio. Photography by We Are Seekers.

 

 

About Darlene Tan-Salazar, W@W Supplier of Year (2015):

Darlene started out as a Planner/Coordinator of Perfect 10 Weddings. Since she needed more time for family matters, she opted to focus on emceeing, and has since started “The Wedding Tip Sheet“, a Facebook page that tackles the practical points in planning a wedding.

 

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WaW Before I Do: Choose Godly Sponsors

My 15-year stint as a wedding photographer has taken me around the world shooting different religions, cultures, and nationalities and this I can say “It is only in the Philippines where they have Principal Sponsors.” Are they really important? And if so, why do we have them?

Principal Sponsors are supposedly people in the couple’s lives whom they respect and listen to. They can be people who are popular, powerful, prominent or rich but not necessarily. Unfortunately, because too many people have chosen principal sponsors based on these traits, it has watered down the importance of the role as principal sponsors. Sponsors have said “yes” to becoming sponsors just for the sake of “Delikadeza” never to be seen again after the wedding.

I personally have attended weddings where, to my shock, there have been as many as 15 sets of principal sponsors. So many that it has been branded as “Business” because sponsors are expected to give “Gifts”. Two of the most memorable gifts I was able to witness comes from 2 presidents of the Philippines. First was Ramos who just gave a book on righteous living and the 2nd one comes from GMA when she was still president. She gave a huge heavy wooden box with a nice emblem of “The President of the Philippines” on top of it. Wondering what’s inside, I stayed until it got opened. We were all shocked at what’s inside — Fresh air! There was nothing except the box. I admired these two for giving the gifts they gave… they had the capacity to give more but they did not give in to pressure. The gifts were simple and yet deep.

Now that I officiate weddings as a pastor, I do stress the importance of getting the right Principal Sponsors. At one point in every marriage ceremony I solemnize, I actually spend a few minutes talking to them and making sure they know what they’re getting into and commit to it before the Lord.

Some downplay the role of the principal sponsors, but with all my heart I believe their roles are far more important than to be eye candies during the wedding. Choose the right ones and you never know if someday they’ll be the ones to come to your rescue. Here are my personal criteria for choosing them.

Relationship – No matter how great your sponsors are, if there is no relationship (or chemistry). Get sponsors who you will often see or at least reachable in case you need them. Not someone who you only see every 5 years. Do not let your parents dictate who you should get simply because they are partners in business or close friends. If they are truly their dear friends, or partners, then explain to them that they are doing them a favor by sparing them the trouble. Don’t get people who are so high in their status that you can’t contact them directly or you’d have to schedule a slot with their secretary to get an appointment. Either they won’t have time for you or won’t even remember who you are.

I’ve personally said “no” to many offers to be one of the principal sponsors because I want to be a responsible sponsor who will be there when my inaanaks need me.

Righteous living – Unfortunately, Rich is not one of the R’s. There are many more things that are far more important than money. Righteousness does not mean being right in man’s eyes. The righteousness I am talking about is being right before God! This criteria is good for Christians and non-Christians alike. If you read the bible, you’d know what I am talking about. A righteous man is indeed a sponsor you’d love to have.

Respected – At least enough for you to listen to him or her. If you don’t respect your sponsor, you won’t even bother talking to the person in case your marriage encounters bumps. I personally will respect a person who I know has wisdom and loves me enough to tell me the truth even when it hurts.

So, if you’ve gotten married years back and it’s now too late to get married, what must you do? Here are 2 things you can do. Reconnect with them even if you’ve not heard from each other since the wedding, which was 10 years ago. Give them a call and ask if you could visit them in your homes. I’m sure they’d appreciate that. If you had sponsors who did not fit the criteria I gave, then find a couple’s group whose leader lives a life worthy to be followed. Perhaps, in case you guys decide to renew your vows someday, you’d have a better chance to pick good sponsors.

Read more of John and Monique Ong’s WaW Before I Do articles at weddingsatwork.com/category/waw-before-i-do/.

 

About John & Monique Ong:

John is a pastor at Revelation City Church, Scuba Diving instructor and owns Imagine Nation photo + Video. He is a graduate of business management at DLSU and took up Masteral in Marketing in the same school and is currently in the Pastoral counseling course at Asian Theological Seminary. Monique is a creative wife / help mate to John, a wedding hosts and heads Post Ad ventures (an Events Management company), a youth pastor in Revelation and writes in their blog called “an ounce of faith”. She took Tourism in UP Diliman.

 

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WaW Wedding Tip Sheet: He asked. You said, “Yes!”… Now what?

After the giddy feelings and telling your closest friends & family members regarding the proposal, you are left with the question, “What’s next?”

You might get asked a million questions especially regarding when and where you’d like to have your wedding. You might also get bombarded with so many recommendations from well-meaning and not-so-well-meaning individuals.

How do you deal with this new phase in your life?

First, tell your parents of your plan to get married. We live in a society where “pamamanhikan” is still important. The process of the groom asking the bride-to-be’s parents for her hand in marriage may be old fashioned but for a lot of families, this process is important because it implies that the groom respects them and their position in the life of their daughter. It is also important for the groom to tell his own parents of his plans, after all, the groom’s parents should be present during the formal pamamanhikan.

Second, before you go and visit a bridal fair, read up about wedding preps first. There are reputable sites where one can get information from fellow couples – those who are further along in terms of preparations or who are already done with their weddings. They can give valuable pieces of advice and they can give you their reviews of suppliers. Of course, reviews must be taken with a grain of salt. One or two negative reviews should not prevent you from considering a supplier especially if the said supplier has a lot of positive ones. (Personally, I would advise that you join the Weddings at Work community so you can have a support group as you go through your preparations.)

Going to a bridal fair, unarmed with reviews and the like, will make you prone to impulse booking. Reading up about a supplier after giving your down payment is never a good practice. You can’t get your down payment back because most have clauses in their contracts that reservation fees are non-refundable.

Third, it’s always better to finalize your date before sending out inquiries. That will make things easier since the suppliers can tell you right away if they are still open for bookings or if your date is already taken. No need to spend time discussing packages and your wedding plans if the supplier can’t handle your date anyway. Note: This date should be one that you also consulted with your parents, because some end up changing dates due to the parents’ insistence.

Fourth, if you’re not the type who is easily satisfied, then don’t go for a package deal. Avoid going for full planning as well, because you will end up researching even if you’ve been given options by the coordinator/planner whom you hired. Complete your roster of suppliers on your own and hire a day coordinator. That person can guide you but you can get the satisfaction of having researched for yourself. Being busy at work is not a good reason for getting a full planning service. As the saying goes, “Where there’s a will, there’s a way”.

Fifth, have a working budget for your wedding but get ready to add a bit more to it once you’ve gone around your first bridal fair and you’ve seen actual rates. I would not advise that you already book suppliers on your first bridal fair unless you researched regarding the said supplier already.

Bonus Tip: Remember that the greatest deal is not always the lowest deal. It is the deal where you can get more bang for your buck. If the supplier is the type who will go the extra mile for you, then you are in good hands, and believe me, on the day, you will need these kinds of suppliers.

 

Read more of Darlene Tan-Salazar’s Wedding Tip Sheet articles at weddingsatwork.com/category/waw-wedding-tip-sheet/.

 

About Darlene Tan-Salazar, W@W Supplier of Year (2015):

 

Darlene started out as a Planner/Coordinator of Perfect 10 Weddings. Since she needed more time for family matters, she opted to focus on emceeing, and has since started “The Wedding Tip Sheet“, a Facebook page that tackles the practical points in planning a wedding.

 

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WaW Before I Do: Build a Home

When you were planning for your wedding you might have been advised to “invest in marriage not the wedding”. Once married or for those who already are, I’d like to give you the next part to that advice – “Build a home and not just a house”.

Unfortunately, many homes are run like a military concentration camp, with authoritative officers commanding everyone to break the spirits of those who don’t follow the rules. Rather than being a place where love grows, it becomes a place of fear and force. People don’t do because they want to but because they have to. It’s a joy killer! So how are homes made? Here are 3 things that sets a home apart to become a place that kids and spouses alike would look forward to going home to.

1. A place of Rest – A home is a place where you can rest. It’s not just a physical rest I am talking about but more so where your soul can recharge and catch up with whatever is going on with your life. The outside world is already stressful and draining as it is, last thing you want when you go home is more stress. If I may add, in order to have some real rest, it is important that one feels safe. Is your home a place of rest? Where there is peace and tranquility?

2. A place of Acceptance – Pretending is tiring and for most of us, we do that whether we are in school or in the office. People pleasing is probably widespread among all of us and when this happens, at the end of the day, it’s nice to go home to a place where you can just be who you are without any pretensions, without fear of being judged. Can you be who you really are in your home?

3. A place of Love – A Home is a place where you feel loved. Are you with people who you know care for you ? In one of the surveys we conducted among families, one said “home is not a place, but a collection of people.” Why? Because when people you love and love you leave home, the home stops being a home. As social beings, every one of us need to be a giver and receiver of love. Is your house a place of Love?

Point is, sometimes we get so uptight about our houses that it stops being feel like home. I know a couple who are so uptight about the house being in order that it’s so hard to move because something might break. I know a place where the husband is expected to help out in the house after a long day at work and I know a family where expectations are so high you can’t just be yourself anymore.

At the end of the day, everyone needs a home — a place for rest, acceptance and love. It doesn’t just happen, it is made. I can’t promise it’s going to be easy, but if you make your house a home — people would look forward to going home to it.

A little confession as I end my article, as a photographer, I used to hate being in the house. I found it boring. So every opportunity I get, I would welcome out of town shoots, specially those that required an overnight. I took pleasure in being away and now that things have changed, I realize it was because it wasn’t a home. But now that things have changed and I’m a home body, I love being just home with my family and I think twice about leaving it every time.

But there is a home that is waiting for us and someday we will all come home to it. I actually wrote a song about it and would like to share it to you:

 

 

Read more of John and Monique Ong’s Before I Do articles at weddingsatwork.com/category/waw-before-i-do/.

About John & Monique Ong:

John is a pastor at Revelation City Church, Scuba Diving instructor and owns Imagine Nation photo + Video. He is a graduate of business management at DLSU and took up Masteral in Marketing in the same school and is currently in the Pastoral counseling course at Asian Theological Seminary. Monique is a creative wife / help mate to John, a wedding host and heads Post Ad ventures (an Events Management company), a youth pastor in Revelation and writes in their blog called “an ounce of faith”. She took Tourism in UP Diliman.

 

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WaW Before I Do: Stop the Bad Habits

We see so many couples who are married who seem to act like they’re still “in a relationship” or worse in “single” status. Unaware of their actions, these couples probably don’t realize they are doing something wrong because they’re just doing what they are used to do. However, unattended, these habits can actually harm or kill the marriage.

1.Fault finding – A marriage is a union of 2 imperfect people. Try and find fault and you will definitely fine one. Faults are common things, not a rare find that you can be proud of. When you realize how flawed you are, you become a person of grace and give allowance or become more forgiving of each other’s fault. Col 3:13 says “Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others“

2. Not being on each others side – I think early on I knew that Monique has been my team mate in life. I am always sure that she is after my best. Unfortunately, in our years of counseling people, we’ve met dozens of couples who have forgotten this and think otherwise. When there are differences (and I am sure there are), things you don’t agree on and criticisms, it’s different when you know that the other people has your best interest in mind. Ecclesiastes 7:5 “Better to be criticized by a wise person than to be praised by a fool.“

3. Separating everything – Remember that after marriage you are already one. No such things as His or Hers. Everything is conjugal. We’ve been asked countless of times. Monique and I share almost everything (except clothes). No such thing as my car and your car etc. Mark 10:8 “ The two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh”

4. Focusing on kids – When kids come out, many couples feel that their priority changes and that the way to being a good wife is to be a good mom. It’s the other way around actually, to be a good mom, you need to first be a good wife. Don’t expect your spouse to always understand why you can’t do hubby or wife duties simply because you’ve been busy taking care of the kids. They are different roles and you have different love tanks to fill. Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her”

5. Keeping score – It doesn’t matter how many times you’ve been wronged. Since you’re together for life, it won’t be the last. Being so, why count? Keeping track puts stress on you and your relationship. I don’t see the point of doing so unless you have plans (consciously or unconsciously) to seek revenge someday. 1 Cor 13:5 “It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs”

6. Not consulting your spouse – I have to admit, this is my weakness and I can probably attribute it to the fact as an only child I grew up alone. It takes time to remember that I now have a partner in life who needs to be consulted every time I make a decision. I know the wife is supposed to submit to the husband, but I believe she’ll respect you more if she feels her opinions are valued as well. Like in our case, Monique is more creative and she often has better ideas than I do.

7. Trying to change the other – If you try to change each other, you’ll get disappointed. You’ll probably discover after you successfully change the person that there is more to change. Be content with who you got. I’m not saying let him be the worse version of yourself… it’s good to give feedback and constructive criticisms in love but leave the what and when to change to your spouse. That’s not your role anymore. Forcing the issue will just lead to conflict and the other person already not feeling “himself or herself”. Ephesians 4:15 “Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.” 

8. Having an exit plan – If you remember your vows to one another a part of it says “Till death do us part” which simply means until God pulls the plug on your life, Man or whatever law man makes has no power to cancel the marriage made before him. However, I am surprised that some couples already think of how it will be when they separate even before they unite. I think if you enter marriage with all your reservations because you are afraid to get hurt, then you’re not being fair for God’s word says “There is no fear in love but perfect love casts out fear”. If you love a person, you simply give it everything. For true love is unconditional. Romans 7:2 “By law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law that binds her to him.”

 

Read more of John and Monique Ong’s Before I Do articles at weddingsatwork.com/category/waw-before-i-do/.

 

About John & Monique Ong:

John is a pastor at Revelation City Church, Scuba Diving instructor and owns Imagine Nation photo + Video. He is a graduate of business management at DLSU and took up Masteral in Marketing in the same school and is currently in the Pastoral counseling course at Asian Theological Seminary. Monique is a creative wife / help mate to John, a wedding hosts and heads Post Ad ventures (an Events Management company), a youth pastor in Revelation and writes in their blog called “an ounce of faith”. She took Tourism in UP Diliman.

 

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Bridal Blurbs: My Two Cents on Wedding Cakes

When I was growing up, I thought that having the most grandiose cake on your wedding spells elegance, class, and it speaks utmost style. It was *that* decade when celebrities get several layers of cake decked with tons of florets, candy pearls, and whatnots because why not, it’s pretty! I know people who got married years and decades before me who had several layers of wedding cake, only they know how many are edible.

It’s fun to scroll ’round Pinterest and Instagram looking for #weddingcakegoals, with naked cakes and cupcakes are in vogue in the wedding industry, and fondant cakes are still rocking it with its new look and technique of making it. I also had my share of my ideal wedding cake because it will help set the mood of the wedding party. It’s also fun to go to bridal fairs and sample cakes from different suppliers and dream about how our first cake eating as a married couple will be like, amidst clinging glasses and cheering guests watching us go through one of the important wedding traditions. Aware of the price tags attached to these delectable wedding cakes, my husband and I chose to settle for a 12-inch, one-layer carrot cake decked with fresh fruits and cream cheese frosting from the country club deli where we had our reception.

In-season cakes are sooo pretty to look at, and I bet these are tasty, too. We may be able to afford to get a several layers, but we decided to get a simple one that’s only a fraction of a towering wedding cake. In fact, our reception venue had us choose between a three-layer cake and overnight suite accommodations at a nearby hotel, and we unanimously chose the suite because we love staycations! I personally think it’s too extravagant to have a towering wedding cake with just a small layer just enough to eat for the traditional cake-cutting and to share with a very few people.

Soon-to-weds, think about this: How important is it for you to have a nice wedding cake, with all the layers and beautiful embellishments? Would you rather spend your monies on other wedding-related expenses and get a simple, non-traditional cake just so you can abide with the cake-cutting traditions? The answers are up to you, darling.

About Kassy Pineda – Alba:

Kassy is a Digital Media Manager for a utilities company, and a budding homemaker who is crazy about Konmari, doing household chores and watching Netflix with her husband.

 

WaW Before I Do: Extended Family – Are You In or Out?

As you tie the knot with your spouse, you will realize that you immediately are married into their family as well. Family relationships will play an integral role in your marriage. That is why it’s best that you know how to deal  and build good relations with your in-laws and avoid becoming an ”outlaw”.

  1. Make an effort to get to know your in-laws.

You were raised very differently from your spouse. Do not assume that your spouses’ family will have the same values, same culture and same habits as you do.  This can be a start of a lot of miscommunication and misunderstanding.  It is best to get to know them better.  Be eager to learn about their family history and heritage: Where did they grow up? How did the parents meet? What are their careers, their achievements, their dreams? Get to know their pet peeves and what makes them feel disrespected and unloved.  When we get to know more of them, we can understand them better.

  1. Let your spouse walk you through their side of the family.

If you are not sure how to relate with your new in-laws, let your spouse lead you.  Don’t get so uptight and stressed to get their approval.  Instead, let your spouse teach you how to respond to their parents. You can always ask your spouse to brief you regarding a certain occasion and situation.  You can always ask your spouse after for a “debriefing” by knowing what went right, what can improve and what should stop.  Remember, you and your spouse are on the same team.  Should you feel you have concerns about your spouse’s family, let your spouse know and let your better half deal with it with his/her family. Your spouse will know better what to say and how to say it without offending his/her family.

  1. Agree to set boundaries for your marriage.

In-laws, in their wanting to keep family time together, often forget that their child is already married. It is best that early on or before you get married, discuss your family values and culture and make your own family rules which will include your extended family. We know of couples fighting over which side of the family they get to spend holidays.  There can also be tension about helping out family members and how to raise your kids. Make sure that you always have open communication with your spouse so you can decide what are the important non-negotiables and what is something you two can agree to give in every once in a while. Make sure to also implement and stick to what was agreed. This way you keep your marriage safe and healthy.

  1. Learn to take everything with a grain of salt.

Sometimes, your in-laws can hit a sensitive nerve in your system. There will be moments where you will feel offended and hurt by their actions or statements. But even when they say something that may not sit well with you, always remember they are just stating their opinion. You can listen but you don’t have to react with anger and disappointment. Many marriages are hurting because they feel that their in-laws have made them feel unappreciated, misunderstood, unloved and judged.  Always remember that you can still decide what’s best for your family. Never burn bridges with your in-laws. Consider them part of a wonderful treasure of extra hands and feet when you need them.  If we have good relationships with them they can definitely help you keep your family together.

  1. Be courteous and kind.

If there is really a way to live harmoniously with your in-laws it is to always good to be polite and kind.  You may not like everything about your in-laws but you can honor them by your response. We can always choose to say positive things and bless them with our works of service for them.

We understand that there are extreme cases wherein some in-laws are just difficult to deal with and they can make your life miserable.  I have learned this bible verses that has helped me:

“Depart from evil, and do good, seek peace and pursue it.” – Psalm 34:14

“So then we pursue the things which make for peace the building up of one another.” – Romans 14:19

The issue may be your in-laws’ controlling or judgmental ways.  This means instead of fighting fire with fire, find ways to always do good and find a middle ground for peace not only for yourself but for them as well.  Keep seeking peace and when you find it, pursue it. How do I find that peace?

  • It means learning how to hold your tongue even if you are tempted to react to their statements. If you have nothing good to say, don’t say it.
  • It means distancing yourself by not pressing on each other’s personal space. If you’re living with your in-laws, aim to live on your own for harmony sake. No two kings or two queens can run a palace.
  • It means being flexible. Try to accommodate as much as you can their request as long as it does not violate any of your family rules and principles.
  • It means being understanding. Be as patient as possible with your in –laws, everyone is a work in progress including yourself.

Peace is a product of acts of kindness, love, joy and a relationship with Jesus Christ. If we can get everyone to be at peace with one another, we can find a strong marriage.

 

 

Read more of John and Monique Ong’s Before I Do articles at weddingsatwork.com/category/waw-before-i-do/.

 

About John & Monique Ong:

John is a pastor at Revelation City Church, Scuba Diving instructor and owns Imagine Nation photo + Video. He is a graduate of business management at DLSU and took up Masteral in Marketing in the same school and is currently in the Pastoral counseling course at Asian Theological Seminary. Monique is a creative wife / help mate to John, a wedding hosts and heads Post Ad ventures (an Events Management company), a youth pastor in Revelation and writes in their blog called “an ounce of faith”. She took Tourism in UP Diliman.

 

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WaWies and Their Wedding Invitations (Part 2)

[cs_content][cs_section parallax=”false” style=”margin: 0px;padding: 45px 0px;”][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text]A few weeks ago, we showed you some of our Part 1 of WaWies and their Wedding Invitations. In case you still need more inspiration, scroll down below for the second batch to see a variety of different styles. Surely, at least one of them will catch your fancy![/cs_text][/cs_column][/cs_row][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/2″ style=”padding: 0px;”][x_image type=”none” src=”https://weddingsatwork.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/11/WaWiesInvitations_DaneandLj.jpg” alt=”” link=”false” href=”#” title=”” target=”” info=”none” info_place=”top” info_trigger=”hover” info_content=””][/cs_column][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/2″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text]Submitted by: Dane & Lj Hernandez
Invitations: Paper and Pen
Photo: Daniel Talavera Photography
Wedding Date: November 3, 2016[/cs_text][/cs_column][/cs_row][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/2″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text]

Submitted by: Christopher Bianes-Ranielli Dionisio
Invitations: Yanna’s Printshop
Photo: Studio1 Photography
Wedding Date: May 13, 2017

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Submitted by: Brian & Marj Llanza
Invitations: Neonovelties.
Wedding Date: July 21,2017

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Layout and Printing: Neonovelties
Calligraphy: by the bride
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Submitted by: Henz and Bhim
Printed using: HP Deskjet GT5820
Designer: DIY thru PicMonkey
Photo: Pam Production
Wedding Date: July 17, 2017

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Invitation and Stamp Layout: Garry, Neonovelties (polishing)
Printing: Neonovelties
Monogram Design: Garry
Wedding Date: Dec. 23, 2016
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Submitted by: Jed Ansis and Louise Bernardo
Layout: Papeldelights by Cath Belen
Printer: Salt and Paper
Photo: Papeldelights
Wedding Date: September 23, 2017

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Submitted by: Jomer Payno & Loida Gasmen
Designer & Printer: Kalidad Prints and Favors
Wedding Date: December 19, 2017

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Designer: Papeldelights
Printer: Global Invitations
Photo: Michelle Pineda Photography
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Submitted by: Jude and Ruby Matusalem
Invitations: Monograf Creatives
Wedding Date: August 19, 2017

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Design: c/o the groom
Printer: Folk Street Co (101 Folk Street)
Photo: Jaja Samaniego
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Submitted by: Jonnel and Minette
Layout: Eleven Fingered Crafter (Ilyn Lopez)
Printer: CQ Prints PH
Wedding Date: August 26, 2017

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Submitted by: Jeffry and Cassandra Hernando
DIY Theme: Disney Movie “UP”
Layout: free c/o sister-in-law
Printed using: Canon Selphy and photo paper. Covers/envelopes made using stuff from National Book Store.

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Invitation: Invitations by Ten
Photo: Manny & April Photography
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Submitted by: Neville Aaron C. Alcantara & Russell D. Tupaz
Printer used: Canon Pixma MP230
Design Layout: www.greetingsisland.com
Photo: Galvinray Photography
Wedding Date: July 7, 2017

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Submitted by: Rj and Sheila
Invitations: Two sets (One for the Principal and Secondary Sponsors, another one for the rest of the guests), all DIY by the bride
Photo: first photo by PV Image Savvy, second photo by the bride
Wedding Date: January 4, 2017

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Layout Artist: Chicken Fernandez (couple’s friend)
Printer: DIY
Photo: Daniel Talavera Photography
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Submitted by: Rommel Tan and Sheridan Evangelista
Design, Ideas and Logo: by the bride using www.canva.com
Printer: Cumbidado c/o Ms. Jap Hombed
Calligraphy: by the bride
Wedding Date: July 15, 2017

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Submitted by: Tanjo and Triggy
Invitations: Invitations by Ten
Wedding Date: Aug. 17, 2017

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Submitted by: Vennie and Cha
Layout Artist: DK Guerrero
Wedding Date: Oct. 28, 2017

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2018 Veluz Ready To Wear Line

[cs_content][cs_section parallax=”false” style=”margin: 0px;padding: 45px 0px;”][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text]Looking for a ready-to-wear wedding gown for your special day? Look no further!

We are thrilled to share with you the 2018 Veluz Ready to Wear line, which was just launched today. There are 9 beautiful gowns in this collection. Check them out![/cs_text][/cs_column][/cs_row][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″ style=”padding: 0px;”][x_blockquote cite=”Veluz” type=”left”]I envisioned brides who know what they want, brides with no need to conform nor prove anything to anyone, proud with their choices and genuinely happy. I see them not losing who they are but actually finding themselves in the silhouettes and details of these dresses…[/x_blockquote][/cs_column][/cs_row][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/2″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text]ALEXA

Classic ballgown with draped Illusion tulle on the shoulders, bodice and sleeves. Dainty corded lace trimming the bodice and skirt with beadwork and laser cut petals.

Option to remove or lengthen the quarter length sleeves.

Available in White, Cream or Blush[/cs_text][/cs_column][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/2″ style=”padding: 0px;”][x_image type=”none” src=”https://weddingsatwork.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/11/VeluzRTW2018_Alexa.jpg” alt=”” link=”false” href=”#” title=”” target=”” info=”none” info_place=”top” info_trigger=”hover” info_content=””][/cs_column][/cs_row][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/2″ style=”padding: 0px;”][x_image type=”none” src=”https://weddingsatwork.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/11/VeluzRTW2018_Ava.jpg” alt=”” link=”false” href=”#” title=”” target=”” info=”none” info_place=”top” info_trigger=”hover” info_content=””][/cs_column][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/2″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text]AVA

Mermaid shaped long gown with beaded lace embellishments all over, chapel length train.

Available in White, Cream or Blush[/cs_text][/cs_column][/cs_row][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/2″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text]FELICIA

One gown, two looks!

Embroidered and beaded lace bodice, detachable full circular Tulle skirt with chapel length train revealing draped Chiffon skirt perfect for the dinner reception.

Available in White and Cream

Option to order without the 2nd look[/cs_text][/cs_column][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/2″ style=”padding: 0px;”][x_image type=”none” src=”https://weddingsatwork.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/11/VeluzRTW2018_Felicia.jpg” alt=”” link=”false” href=”#” title=”” target=”” info=”none” info_place=”top” info_trigger=”hover” info_content=””][/cs_column][/cs_row][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/2″ style=”padding: 0px;”][x_image type=”none” src=”https://weddingsatwork.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/11/VeluzRTW2018_Lana.jpg” alt=”” link=”false” href=”#” title=”” target=”” info=”none” info_place=”top” info_trigger=”hover” info_content=””][/cs_column][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/2″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text]LANA

Timeless silhouette with a fully embellished bodice, full circular skirt and that pretty little bow on the waist

Available in White, Cream or Blush[/cs_text][/cs_column][/cs_row][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/2″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text]LAYLA

Re-embroidered and beaded lace trimmings on the bodice of this classic off shoulder gown with full circular skirt and chapel length train.

Available in White, Cream or Blush[/cs_text][/cs_column][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/2″ style=”padding: 0px;”][x_image type=”none” src=”https://weddingsatwork.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/11/VeluzRTW2018_Lauren.jpg” alt=”” link=”false” href=”#” title=”” target=”” info=”none” info_place=”top” info_trigger=”hover” info_content=””][/cs_column][/cs_row][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/2″ style=”padding: 0px;”][x_image type=”none” src=”https://weddingsatwork.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/11/VeluzRTW2018_Layla.jpg” alt=”” link=”false” href=”#” title=”” target=”” info=”none” info_place=”top” info_trigger=”hover” info_content=””][/cs_column][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/2″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text]LAUREN

Classic strapless ball gown with beaded grosgrain belt and chapel length train. Option to have matching long sleeved tulle top with embroidery and beaded details a more conservative look for the ceremony.

Available in White, Cream and Blush[/cs_text][/cs_column][/cs_row][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/2″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text]LUCIA

Perfect ballgown with lace trimmings and beads organically scattered on the entire gown with chapel length train. Option to order with that quirky and feminine tulle cardigan.

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Elegant off shoulder top in intricately patterned embroidery and beading cascading to the lower hipline. Mermaid shaped bodice extends to a chapel length train at the back

Available in White, Cream or Blush[/cs_text][/cs_column][/cs_row][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/2″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text]PAMELA

Dare to be different! Silver embroidered and crystal beaded top, full circular skirt and black belt to complete the bridal yet non-traditional look.

For a classic bridal look, belt and beadwork can be modified to match the skirt. Option to order without the flouncy sleeves too!

Available in White, Cream and Blush[/cs_text][/cs_column][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/2″ style=”padding: 0px;”][x_image type=”none” src=”https://weddingsatwork.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/11/VeluzRTW2018_Pamela.jpg” alt=”” link=”false” href=”#” title=”” target=”” info=”none” info_place=”top” info_trigger=”hover” info_content=””][/cs_column][/cs_row][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″ style=”padding: 0px;”][x_video_embed no_container=”false” type=”16:9″][/x_video_embed][/cs_column][/cs_row][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text]Please click here for the complete images of these dresses. Watch out for details of Veluz trunk shows very soon! RTW dresses can be ordered at 10 to 30% off only during the trunk show.

Please call or message Gercel at 09175401677 / 09177365422 for more information or to set an appointment.

Photos: Mimi+Karl
Hair and Make-up: Madge Landrito Lejano and Carlene Lucero of The Makeup Studio Team by Madge
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WaW Before I Do: Marriage Is Not The Day But The Everyday

[cs_content][cs_section parallax=”false” style=”margin: 0px;padding: 45px 0px;”][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text]I already knew the topic I wanted to write about, but as I pulled out my laptop to write at 7am here in Caramoan in Camarines Sur, God gave me some sentences to start with:

a. God instituted marriage.
b. God designed it like the Christian walk.
c. It’s not a one time event.
d. It’s the start of a journey.

During weddings, we congratulate the couple. I personally think though that although it’s ok to congratulate them, it’s more important to to wish them well. Why? Because marriage is not an end but the beginning of a journey. It’s not a finish line but a starting line. When the Philippine team journeyed to conquer mount Everest, people didn’t congratulate them – they wished them well. Congratulations were made after they’ve conquered Mount Everest and a huge celebration followed.

While I agree that congratulating them for finally making and jumping into the decision that “This is the one that I want to be with for the rest of my life!”, let’s be honest and ask ourselves, “How difficult can that one be?” One only needs to be decisive. The right question should be, “Are we certain that they’ve made the right decision that’s why we are congratulating them?” Let me answer that by getting to the points God told me.

God instituted marriage. It is originally designed for two people who love each other so much that they commit to be married – a ceremony designed by God to bind two souls together as one for life. So if this sounds like you, then my answer is a big YES! It is right. In Ephesians (a book in the bible), It commanded the husbands to love their wives “as Christ loved the church”. And how much is that? We can’t exactly measure but it was definitely enough for Him to die for it!

A lot of people say that when married couples fail, it was the “wrong marriage” or that they have irreconcilable differences. I don’t think so. Aside from marriages at gun point or where one had the wrong motives (which for me isn’t how God designed marriage), I think marriages start off at the same point. It is what you do and how you think after that changes it.

God designed Marriage to be like the Christian walk. Christians are not spared from trials and problems. As a Christian, my spiritual fire is not always at 100%. Do I give up? No! I read the bible more, talk to pastors (or priests) for counseling, I hang out with people who believe in the same faith and who I trust will give me sound advice.

It’s the same way with marriage. It won’t always be happy. There are times when you’d encounter problems like bill payment deadlines and problems with thekids, and there will be moments when the problem is amongst yourselves — character differences, bad moods, PMS etc. Do you give up? No! You get to know each other more, seek counseling and attend marriage enrichment seminars. Having shot over a thousand weddings as a photographer and also having solemnized dozens as a pastor, I can conclude that majority of couples seek God’s blessing for marriage on the wedding day but do not seek Him after. It’s like putting up a business, praying to God to bless it, leaving for another country, coming back after 10 years and expecting to be a millionaire. Hello?!?! Marriage takes work!

Marriage is not a one time event. For many, a wedding is about flaunting. Showing your achievements with stylish venue set-ups, serving the best food, an AVP showing off pictures of places where you’ve been to as a couple and hiring the best suppliers. Nothing wrong with that. I used to be one of the most expensive photographers during my time, but when you invest solely on the wedding itself, it will be a disaster.

I believe that as much as you plan your wedding carefully, we are to plan our marriage with much more detail. As husband & wife and as a family, Monique and I make sure we attend one or two spiritually enhancing events per year. What’s the connection with marriage? A lot! Please listen carefully: When our spirit is in its right place, we think right and when we think right, we act right. On the other hand, so many people focus immediately on action, the “to do”, not knowing that you can’t change action without the heart. Change is temporary. No wonder people who say “I will not do it again” end up doing it over and over and often even end up much worse than before.

Aside from that, Monique and I travel as a couple and we travel as a family too. These cost money but they are great investments. It doesn’t have to be far or out of the country but the point is to set aside time for each other. We are creating a culture.

Lastly, Marriage is but the start of the journey. Yes, since you were born you’ve been on a journey. But this time, God gave you someone to journey with. So I wonder, why do others live like they’re planning their lives individually? They attend bible studies alone, travel alone, watch movies alone, take on new hobbies alone. While I believe men need their alone time or cave time, there is something wrong when you find yourself the same as before. It defeats the purpose of why you got married in the first place. After you get married, life is a journey that 2 people take on together.

I mentioned earlier about the story of the Philippine Everest Team and their successful climb and how a huge celebration followed. If you think your wedding reception was the celebration, guess again. There is a much more bigger celebration happening in heaven for those who faithfully cross the finish line and my prayer is that all of us will be there celebrating together.

 

Read more of John and Monique Ong’s Before I Do articles at weddingsatwork.com/category/waw-before-i-do/.[/cs_text][/cs_column][/cs_row][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_block_grid type=”two-up”][cs_block_grid_item title=”Block Grid Item 1″]About John & Monique Ong:

John is a pastor at Revelation City Church, Scuba Diving instructor and owns Imagine Nation photo + Video. He is a graduate of business management at DLSU and took up Masteral in Marketing in the same school and is currently in the Pastoral counseling course at Asian Theological Seminary. Monique is a creative wife / help mate to John, a wedding hosts and heads Post Ad ventures (an Events Management company), a youth pastor in Revelation and writes in their blog called “an ounce of faith”. She took Tourism in UP Diliman. [/cs_block_grid_item][cs_block_grid_item title=”Block Grid Item 2″]john-monique-ong[/cs_block_grid_item][/cs_block_grid][/cs_column][/cs_row][/cs_section][/cs_content]

WaWies and Their Wedding Invitations (Part 1)

[cs_content][cs_section parallax=”false” style=”margin: 0px;padding: 45px 0px;”][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text]Your wedding invitations give your guests a glimpse of what your wedding theme is going to be. First impressions last. Therefore, you have to choose the wedding invitation that best fits the style you are going for.

There are several things to consider when choosing your wedding invitations, including the theme, the wording, and the supplier. Below, we share some photos of wedding invitations that some of our WaWies have chosen and/or designed for their own weddings. We hope these will inspire you to create one that’s perfect for your own special day.[/cs_text][/cs_column][/cs_row][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/2″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text style=”margin-top:20%;margin-bottom:50%;”]

Submitted by: Richard & Agape Baterina
Designer: Nelma M. Ape
Theme: Rustic & Shabby Chic
Wedding Date: June 24, 2017
Photo: Paolo M Photography

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Submitted by: Dane & LJ Hernandez
Supplier: Paper and Pen
Wedding Date: November 3, 2016
Photo: Daniel Talavera Photography

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Submitted by: John Paul L. Nicdao & Jessica B. De Leon
Invitation Printing and Layout: Salt & Paper
Wedding Date: July 10, 2017
Photo: OneCarlo Photography

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Submitted by: Raymond and Katrina
Invitations: DIY (done using adobe photoshop)
Printer used: Canon Pixma G1000 (continuous)
Wedding Date: November 11, 2017

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Submitted by: JM de Leon and Mav Duran
Printer: PrintCity Invitations
Wedding Date: February 4, 2017
Photo Credit: DigitEyes Photography

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Submitted by: Eun Ho Cho and Babylene Villasanta
Printer: YIMI
Invite Designer: the bride, Babylene Villasanta (got the idea from Pinterest)
Wedding Date: November 9, 2017
Photo: the bride, Baby Villasanta

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Submitted by: Michael Anthony Estur and Melissa Llanto
Layout: by bride’s sister, Lea Llanto
Printer: Mjoyce Printing
Wedding Date: June 11, 2017
Photo: Rainbowfish Photography

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Submitted by: John Paul Baracas & Micah Miranda
Supplier: Yanna’s Printshop
Wedding date: August 21,2017

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Submitted by: Billy Ray Borja & Rose Charlotte Q. Borja
Layout: Steph of all Trades
Printer: EPSON L220
Wedding Date: June 24, 2017
Photo: East Digital Studio

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Submitted by: Grace and Andrew
Art and Creative Designed by: Metalpig Nad

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Submitted by: DJ & Beng Mendoza
Designer: Papeldelights
Printing: YZA in UP Diliman Shopping Center
Wedding Date: June 9, 2017
Photo: Bob & Zab Photography

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Submitted by: Joseph & KJ Vaje
Invitations: Urbanista Invites
Wedding Date: May 20, 2017
Photo: Jay Mayuga

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Submitted by: Mike & LC Bellen
Stamp and Invite Design DIY: by the bride, LC
Stamp: Iseal Custom Wax Stamp
Printer: Yannas Printshop
Wedding Date: Feb. 18, 2015
Photo: Lightshapers

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Submitted by: Leynard and Kristina Hipolito
Layout and Prints: Nikkiprints
Wedding Date: April 08, 2017
Photo: Foreveryday Photography

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Submitted by: Laurence and Kattleya Chua
Invitation: DIY
Printer: Family friend
Wedding Date: July 1, 2017
Photo: Kat Jimenez-Chua

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Submitted by: Michael Malaiba and Elame Lao
Invite Designer and Print: Salt & Paper
Wedding date: December 16, 2017

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Submitted by: Chris Tamesis and Kathrina Sadsad-Tamesis
Design: by bride, Kathrina
Monogram Design: Letters by Lara (wife of Brian of Vidlens)
Printer: Kenneth Uy Invites
Wedding Date: February 19, 2017
Photo: Law Tapalla Photography

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Submitted by: James Akers & Cristina Marania-Akers
Invitations: Neonovelties
Wedding date: April 20, 2017
Photo: PhotoFarm Digital Collaboration

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Submitted by: Jonel Parbo & Kriz Valmadrid
Printer & Invitation Designer: Urbanista Invites
Wedding Date: Dec. 17, 2016
Photo: Efjay Deleon Photography

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Submitted by: Kremlin Gow and Mylee Gabot
Invitations: Invitation Madness
Wedding Date: January 07, 2017
Photo: God’s Grace Productions

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Stay tuned for WaWies and Their Wedding Invitations, Part 2 coming soon!!!

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Bridal Blurbs: Why You Need to Check on Your Health Before Tying the Knot

[cs_content][cs_section parallax=”false” style=”margin: 0px;padding: 45px 0px;”][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text]It’s been roughly ten months since my husband and I got married. A lot has happened: our fun honeymoon, setting up our humble abode, and a handful of health issues. For this entry, I’d like to put emphasis on taking care of your health right now, while you still have a chance.

Many soon-to-wed couples put a premium on losing weight, following an effective skin regimen, or having their teeth straightened or whitened just so they would look good on their wedding day, most forget what lies underneath that beautiful shell that they will clad in intricately-designed wedding gowns and bespoke suits or barongs. For the sake of your overall health, now I ask you: How’s your blood pressure? How about your blood sugar? Have you had your teeth cleaned and checked by an able dentist? When was the last time you saw your OB, or have you ever seen one? Have you felt any suspicious lumps in your body?

It takes a lot of energy to prepare for one special day, and it’s especially tasking since you want every detail to be almost-perfect. Being at the prime of your health before and after the wedding is essential for your overall wellness. Why? You need the energy to deal with suppliers, DIYs, and errands, as well as family members, guests, and other people you will be in contact with in planning your wedding. I’ve mentioned in my previous BB blog that while there may have superstitions that tell soon-to-weds to avoid going out of the house before their wedding, it somehow makes sense because taking on exhausting trips, no matter the distance (because traffic, haha!) may take a toll on the body, so take heed not because of a few hokum but because you want to be at your tip-top shape on your big day.

Your reproductive health is another reason why you have to put your health in check before the big day. If you plan to conceive soon after the wedding or delay childbirth at a later time, it is important to keep your health in check in support of those plans. Taking certain medications, continuing an unhealthy lifestyle, or simply having pre-existing medical conditions may greatly affect your plans in building a family. I won’t go far anymore, I have irregular periods since I started working. Turns out, I have polycystic ovaries that turns my hormones out of whack, among other things. I started consulting with my OB-GYN and scheduled regular check-ups with my cardiologist a year before the wedding and underwent a battery of tests so that we could prevent possible problems when we finally conceive. I also have a friend who plans to have babies a few years after the wedding, so she asked her OB-GYN about options on how to plan for their future offspring.

Regardless if you want babies ASAP or months or years after, it is also best to have your vaccines updated. Get your mom or one of your parent or guardian dig your family baul and look for your immunization records from way back. This is also important especially if you’re planning a honeymoon getaway in areas that require certain inoculations prior to landing. Vaccines like the measles-mumps-rubella vaccine (MMR), diptheria-tetanus-pertussis vaccine (DTPv), chickenpox vaccine, dengue vaccine, and the annual flu vaccine will give you peace of mind not only during your trip, but also when you already plan on having kids. Ladies, make sure to have your cervical cancer vaccine as well as the MMR vaccine at least six months to a year before getting married to keep you protected!

We vow to take care of our partners “in sickness and in health, till death do we part,” so take initiative in keeping sickness at bay so that you may fully enjoy married life together, forever. Pay attention to every changes in your body, from your eyesight, skin pigmentation, minor aches, period regularity, and even the color of your finger and toe nails, sans polish (yes, this matters!) and have these checked ASAP before it’s too late. Brides and grooms, take charge of your health NOW. I guarantee you, one day of taking time off from wedding planning to attend to your health and wellness will be so worth it not only for the sake of your wedding, but also for the rest of your lives.

 

Read more of Kassy Pineda – Alba’s Bridal Blurbs articles at weddingsatwork.com/category/bridal-blurbs/.[/cs_text][/cs_column][/cs_row][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_block_grid type=”two-up”][cs_block_grid_item title=”Block Grid Item 1″]About Kassy Pineda – Alba:

Kassy is a Digital Media Manager for a utilities company, and a budding homemaker who is crazy about Konmari, doing household chores and watching Netflix with her husband.[/cs_block_grid_item][cs_block_grid_item title=”Block Grid Item 2″]Kassy Pineda[/cs_block_grid_item][/cs_block_grid][/cs_column][/cs_row][/cs_section][/cs_content]

WaW Before I Do: To Vow or Not To Vow

[cs_content][cs_section parallax=”false” style=”margin: 0px;padding: 45px 0px;”][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text]I’m saddened that some churches actually do not allow vows. Think about it… What’s the point of not allowing it? Does it make the wedding too long? Are we doubting the couple’s capability to know exactly what to say? Does it make the wedding too dramatic? Whatever the reason is for not allowing, I think the reason for why we should outweighs by far why we shouldn’t. For me, vows are sacred therefore is the most important part of the ceremony. I always tell the photographers that I train – there are 2 parts of the wedding where you can anticipate the most tears – the bride’s entrance and the personal vows. I don’t think I need to expound on why.

It was a touching moment when a friend of mine actually asked me to help him organize a surprise renewal of vows in Boracay. One of the things that he said for his vows was “I have to admit, when we first got married, I was merely repeating what the priest said but did not mean any of it. Now I want to give you my real vow.” Everyone was in tears specially the fact that all those around them knew this couple was in the brink of separating few months prior.

Now here is why I want to push you to do your personal vows:

  • “I ….” – Vows are real! It is about you and what’s inside your heart. Your vows are your commitment. As the couple gets into this new and lifelong phase, they are usually troubled by so much doubt or the “what if’s”. A vow can remove these fears and replace them with hope that these promises brings.
  • “I will…” – Vows are what marriage is all about! Marriage is not just a ceremony but it is union of 2 separate people. This union should be covered by an agreement about what changes this new life brings. A stated vow tells everyone they know what they’re getting into — specially with regard to their boundaries and behaviors. The words “I will” are strong active words that tell your partner “You can count on me to do this”.
  • “I vow not to” – Vows sets boundaries. As you enter this new life, what do you agree to change? Is it to let go of some of the things, habits and people in your life? Is it a commitment never to leave no matter what? Is it not to sleep when the other person is still angry? Vows set parameters and boundaries of what can’t be done.
  • Last and the least, Vows make SDE’s better – Though this is not the main reason why we should do our vows, it is a prize that comes with doing your responsibility. Personal vows make your videos special because then it becomes personal. Someday when your video is played back, you wouldn’t own up to a vow that you were required to repeat would you? But a personal vow would resonate down your soul and make you want to own up to it.

So what if your church does not allow you to make a vow? Here are some of my suggestions:

a. Say it in your video – either as a surprise to the other party (so shoot individually) or go to a remote place and have your videographer video it (shoot as a couple).
b. Do it at your wedding reception – If your program is too long, then its better to cut out the less important traditionals like games and AVPs. I think this is more important. You don’t need a priest or pastor for God to hear and bless your vows.
c. Write it to out each other / put it in your website – Vows are like goals. If you don’t set it in stone, tendency is it moves and changes.

So that’s my personal opinion on vows. It’s sad that most couples wait until the last minute to do it. And as I end my vows, may I have a request for those people who do. I pray that your vows will always be real and genuine. Not memorized… Not commercialized…. It doesn’t have to be memorized word for word but my final advice to you is to simply just say what you mean and mean what you say, remembering that the vow you make is not just to your spouse but also to God. I hope this article blessed you.

 

Read more of John and Monique Ong’s WaW Before I Do articles at weddingsatwork.com/category/waw-before-i-do/.[/cs_text][/cs_column][/cs_row][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_block_grid type=”two-up”][cs_block_grid_item title=”Block Grid Item 1″]About John & Monique Ong:

John is a pastor at Revelation City Church, Scuba Diving instructor and owns Imagine Nation photo + Video. He is a graduate of business management at DLSU and took up Masteral in Marketing in the same school and is currently in the Pastoral counseling course at Asian Theological Seminary. Monique is a creative wife / help mate to John, a wedding hosts and heads Post Ad ventures (an Events Management company), a youth pastor in Revelation and writes in their blog called “an ounce of faith”. She took Tourism in UP Diliman.[/cs_block_grid_item][cs_block_grid_item title=”Block Grid Item 2″]john-monique-ong[/cs_block_grid_item][/cs_block_grid][/cs_column][/cs_row][/cs_section][/cs_content]

WaW Wedding Tip Sheet: Ento Etiquette

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I’ve been asked to join the entourage? Yay!

After the initial giddy feelings, you might ask, “What exactly is expected of me as a member of the entourage?”

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  1. As a member of the female entourage, you are expected to be available for the designated measurement and fitting schedule of the designer (as agreed with the bride). Please avoid being late, asking for a last-minute change in schedule (unless there’s a major emergency), or forcing changes in the styles of the clothes assigned to you. Dress the part. You’re not the bride, you’re a member of the entourage so you shouldn’t have a dress that steals the scene from the bride. Otherwise, you’ll have a stressed out bride cursing the day she thought of including you in her entourage.

 It is becoming common for brides to ask their entourage to share in the cost or to shoulder the cost of their gowns. If budget is too tight, let the bride know so she can make adjustments in her entourage list. Giving her the cold shoulder or putting her in your “seenzone” list just makes the bride anxious. She doesn’t know if you still want in or out. So better to say so as soon as you’re told you need to shell out for your dress as your gift to the couple.

  1. Another item in the list for the female entourage would be make-up and hair. The bride may volunteer to source a supplier who charges less. If you have someone else in mind to handle your own make up and hair, do tell the bride right away so she won’t get stuck with paying for the hair and make-up of 6 heads when in fact, only 5 will be present on the day. Also, please follow the designated hair style — if everyone has been asked to go “hair down”, please don’t request your hair stylist to give you an updo. The bride is the star of the show; no one should steal her thunder.
  1. As a member of the male entourage, you may either be expected to produce your own suit/barong or to be available for measurement-taking and fitting. Don’t take the fitting schedule lightly, unless, you want a suit/barong that looks like it was made for someone else – too loose or too tight.
  1. While the reception is not as formal as the ceremony, you do need to remember that there’s usually an entrance for the entourage. So before changing your clothes, removing your tie, or crumpling up your barong, do ask the coordinators if you need to be in your prescribed attire ’til a certain point in the reception programme.
  1. You will be part of a lot of pictorials – first, at the preps venue; second, at the church/ceremony venue, and if still needed, a third time at the reception venue before the programme starts. So get ready to wake up early, to come on time, and to smile. No need to stress out the bride and groom by complaining about your make-up, your hair, your attire, and the food. No need to also stress out the coordinators by being a bigger baby than the bride or groom. They are there to take care of the bride, the groom, and the wedding plans. They didn’t sign up to be yayas of the entourage. Do not ask them to iron your attire, get your shoes in the car, etc. Do not leave as well and make them hunt for you after you’ve been specifically told of the schedule of the day.

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 6. You might be asked to give a message/speech. Prepare for it. Don’t just wing it on the day. You will sound like you’re rambling and you might even cause people to leave. Instead, write your outline. Think of what should be in the message. Is it an inside joke? No need to include it. Is it a story that will make the other side appreciate the bride/groom, by all means include it. When you make an outline and write your speech, you will have time to edit and make sure your message contains only what is necessary and it will be delivered in the most understandable (and perhaps, the most entertaining) way possible.

 7. You might be asked to take on some tasks like distributing favors, inviting others to partake in the activities prepared by the couple, dancing during the entrance, or joining a game. Do participate. Don’t be that one person who, because of being a kill joy, destroys the happiness of others. (Note to couples though, please don’t ask your entourage to dance if you yourselves won’t dance an upbeat number.)

8. You’re expected to be present all throughout. It will never sit well with anyone if you will leave right after ceremony or you will leave right after eating at the reception. Tell the bride and groom honestly if you have work on their wedding day or if you can’t come home or you’re planning to go abroad. That way they can take you out of the list early on – with time to spare for preparing the right attire. Let the couple know as well, if for religious reasons, you are not allowed to participate in their ceremony.

9. Be on time for the ceremony and know your tasks if you’ve been assigned as candle, veil, or cord sponsor. Don’t look like a lost kid in the middle of the aisle or at the altar area. Ask the coordinators if you’re not sure of what you’re supposed to do. Listen as well to their instructions. The best man and maid of honor will receive instructions as well especially if the church admin is strict or the pastor wants them to take on roles. Listen, listen, listen so there will be no mistakes during the ceremony.

10. You will be sent messages to remind you of schedules or instructions regarding what to do on the day, please respond. Nothing is more impolite than reading the message yet avoiding a response. If you can’t handle the tasks at hand, say so. It’s more difficult for the bride/groom to ask you straight if you’d rather not be part of the entourage (after you initially said yes). Better to say “no” earlier than later.

Here’s something else to ponder: What if you haven’t been asked to be part of the entourage? In all honesty, you feel you should be in the list because you’re a relative, you’re close to either the bride/groom, or your parents are best friends. Please don’t talk to the bride/groom or their parents to volunteer to be part of the entourage or to have your child as one of the flower girls/bearers. They are the ones getting married, so they have the prerogative to choose.

It’s not easy being part of the entourage. The expectation goes beyond just looking pretty or handsome on the day. There are tasks to be done, requests to heed, and sacrifices to undertake. If you’re not willing to be under the sun on the day for pictorials, to wake up early and be one time, or to be present all throughout, please do tell the bride and groom to give the role to someone else who is more deserving of the title. They would appreciate your honesty, believe me. ☺

 

Read more of Darlene Tan – Salazar’s WaW Wedding Tip Sheet articles at weddingsatwork.com/category/waw-wedding-tip-sheet/.[/cs_text][/cs_column][/cs_row][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1/1″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_block_grid type=”two-up”][cs_block_grid_item title=”Block Grid Item 1″ class=”aligncenter”]About Darlene Tan-Salazar, W@W Supplier of Year (2015):

Darlene started out as a Planner/Coordinator of Perfect 10 Weddings. Since she needed more time for family matters, she opted to focus on emceeing, and has since started “The Wedding Tip Sheet“, a Facebook page that tackles the practical points in planning a wedding.[/cs_block_grid_item][cs_block_grid_item title=”Block Grid Item 2″]wedding-tip-sheet[/cs_block_grid_item][/cs_block_grid][/cs_column][/cs_row][/cs_section][/cs_content]