[cs_content][cs_section parallax=”false” style=”margin: 0px;padding: 45px 0px;”][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1\/1″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_text]Before they marry, specially in the few days prior, couples are often faced by multitudes of questions. \u00a0Some of these questions are ok to be left unanswered as they are not as toxic or as harmful as some. \u00a0These are questions that are just part of the\u00a0wedding jitters but there are some that should\u00a0never ever be brushed aside because these are supposed to\u00a0trigger warning signs should you be not\u00a0ready.<\/p>\n

I know it\u2019s been said before to almost all people getting married that \u201cany sign of doubt, you should put off the wedding<\/em>\u201d but out of every 100 weddings, how many do you think gets set aside until smoke clears out? One or maybe not even. \u00a0Usually, we pay more attention to the stronger\u00a0feeling of (1) Shame – what will people say? \u00a0We\u2019ve already sent out invites, (2) Waste – we\u2019ve already spent so much\u00a0and (3) Confidence – maybe its just part of getting married and we\u2019ll just sort it out once we are there.<\/p>\n

Well, do me a favor and keep the questions that I mention\u2026 dwell on it and be sure of your answers.<\/p>\n

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1. Am I really ready?<\/b> – Did I give this decision enough thought and prayer? Being ready is not just to receive but to let go. Like what? \u00a0Hobbies, friends, lifestyle &\u00a0relatives!\u00a0\u00a0I am not saying ignore them totally but to fix your priorities and make your spouse #2 in your life.<\/li>\n
2. Do I really know my partner?\u00a0<\/b>– There are different levels of knowing\u2026 \u00a0sometimes, people use their hearts too much and leave so much to be risked. \u00a0Did you give the relationship enough time for you to know not only the good points but the bad points. \u00a0Realize that just like a car, problems don\u2019t usually manifest or show up early on. \u00a0Many traits are triggered by situations and so to know each other truly you should have gone through different situations in life.\u00a0\u00a0These are recessed characteristics that are rarely triggered but must be known. \u00a0How is your partner during these situations (there are more actually<\/em>)?:\n
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   1. He loses money<\/li>\n
   2. There is conflict of ideas<\/li>\n
   3. drunk?<\/li>\n
   4. Made to wait<\/li>\n
   5. Irritated<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n
   6. Do I really trust my partner?<\/b> – Is he what he says he is or are there kept secrets? How do you know? Have you met the future in-laws and the best friends? \u00a0Have you pointed out your person of peace?<\/li>\n
   7. Are we ready in all aspects?<\/b>\u00a0– all means ALL!\n
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      1. Financially – Are there debts that need to be settled? \u00a0Have we actually done financial planning on how income and expenses would look once we live together?<\/li>\n
      2. Physically – Any\u00a0Sickness I need to be aware of? I know some people who after a year of marriage have become widows. \u00a0Aside from health, are we both physically capable of fulfilling our roles as husband & wife? These include plan Bs for kids in case we can’t bear one.<\/li>\n
      3. Mentally – Do we agree that we both want to do this will all our heart, mind and soul?<\/li>\n
      4. Legally – Are we of legal age and have we fixed up everything that needed to be fixed? \u00a0Hopefully not pre-marital agreements but similar to those things.<\/li>\n
      5. Spiritually – Did I get my parents blessing, do we share the same faith and beliefs?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n
      6. Do I know my responsibilities & am do I\u00a0accept them?<\/b>\u00a0Some people don\u2019t know at all but some know but don\u2019t accept thinking they\u2019ll find a way around it or that they must be an exception but the worse part is, some people think they know but they actually don\u2019t. \u00a0These are people who think that marriage is easy because they see only the good side of it. \u00a0Don\u2019t take me wrong, marriage is good\u2026 but I believe, marriage is good only when the husband and wife loves and lives in harmony. \u00a0Then marriage feels like a blessing\u2026<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

         So if you seriously used the questions above to figure out whether you are with the right person or this is the right time or situation, then you probably got some warning signs up. \u00a0Now what are you to do about these? \u00a0While I do believe that \u201cNo one is really 100% ready”<\/em> as they walk down the altar. \u00a0I being an entrepreneur also believe that you don\u2019t just ignore them. \u00a0Discuss them with your fiancee and come up with an attack plan. \u00a0It would be suicidal to just keep them to yourself and think everything will fix itself (cause it won\u2019t)<\/em>. \u00a0Now I know some will do that thinking it might freak their spouse saying \u201cYou are calling off the wedding just because of an article you read?\u201d<\/em> but they won\u2019t and they shouldn\u2019t! and if they do \u2014 well then that’s another warning sign for you.<\/p>\n

         There\u2019s more valid\u00a0questions but I believe these are my top 5s. \u00a0What are yours?<\/p>\n

         Want to know more? We\u2019re actually organizing a one day event on Feb 21, 2017<\/span><\/span> 1 – 6 pm<\/span><\/span>\u00a0at the Robinson\u2019s Magnolia Activity Center. \u00a0It\u2019s free for soon-to-be weds but if you want us to reserve you a seat, be sure to register at www.beforeidoworkshop.com<\/a><\/p>\n

         Read more of John & Monique Ong’s Before I Do articles at www.weddingsatwork.com\/category\/waw-before-i-do\/<\/a>.<\/em>[\/cs_text][\/cs_column][\/cs_row][cs_row inner_container=”true” marginless_columns=”false” style=”margin: 0px auto;padding: 0px;”][cs_column fade=”false” fade_animation=”in” fade_animation_offset=”45px” fade_duration=”750″ type=”1\/1″ style=”padding: 0px;”][cs_block_grid type=”two-up”][cs_block_grid_item title=”Block Grid Item 1″]About John & Monique Ong:<\/strong><\/p>\n

         John is a pastor at Revelation City Church, Scuba Diving instructor and owns Imagine Nation photo + Video. He is a graduate of business management at DLSU and took up Masteral in Marketing in the same school and is currently in the Pastoral counseling course at Asian Theological Seminary. Monique is a creative wife \/ help mate to John, a wedding hosts and heads Post Ad ventures (an Events Management company), a youth pastor in Revelation and writes in their blog called \u201can ounce of faith\u201d. She took Tourism in UP Diliman.[\/cs_block_grid_item][cs_block_grid_item title=”Block Grid Item 2″]<\/a>[\/cs_block_grid_item][\/cs_block_grid][\/cs_column][\/cs_row][\/cs_section][\/cs_content]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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